FenceChat sits in the middle: your real contact details stay private, their messages are filtered before they reach you, and a complete record is kept automatically.
The person you need to hear from, but on your terms
Hostile content removed before it reaches you
Filtered message arrives. Real address always private.
Original message saved with full timestamp
FenceChat filters both channels: email on every plan, SMS on Protected and Legal.
You get a dedicated @fencechat.com address. Share it with the person you need to hear from. Their emails arrive at FenceChat first. Hostile content is stripped, the filtered version lands in your real inbox, and the original is archived.
Add the person to your contacts and we give you your FenceChat number to share with them. Their texts arrive at FenceChat first. They are filtered, then delivered to your inbox and Dashboard, on your terms, never ambushing you on your lock screen. Your real mobile number stays completely private.
Email filtering works with senders anywhere in the world. SMS filtering works between countries where FenceChat operates, and because features roll out country by country, a country may have email filtering before SMS becomes available there. See the FAQ for how cross-border messaging works.
When we process a message, FenceChat saves two versions, the original and the filtered version you receive. Both are kept in your Message Archive.
FenceChat’s filter is smart enough to know the difference between blunt and cruel. It doesn’t just catch swearing: it’s tuned to spot guilt-tripping, sarcasm, passive-aggressive language and more.
FenceChat is grounded in published research on how hostility actually shows up in language: the Four Horsemen of relationship breakdown, DARVO, coercive control, and workplace incivility. Not a keyword list.
The Legal plan doesn’t stop at filtering and archiving. It tags the pattern in each message, coercive or controlling language, financial abuse, and more, organised into a record for your solicitor.
Some co-parenting apps include message filtering as one feature alongside calendars, expense tracking and more. FenceChat does one job: filtering the messages you receive.
Block someone and they can reach you from a new address. Worse, you lose the record of what they sent: evidence you may need. FenceChat archives it without you having to read it.
Apps like OurFamilyWizard and TalkingParents require both parties to download, agree, and use the app. FenceChat works on your side alone with the sender using the address you give them.
Changing your number disrupts everyone who has it. FenceChat keeps your real details private while still allowing necessary contact, on your terms, filtered and archived. See how to hide your phone number from an ex.
