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Every incoming message is processed by AI before you see it, taking out manipulation and hostility and flagging any threat, while preserving anything genuinely useful. The original is always archived.
The same message: what was sent, and what reaches you.
"You’re completely incompetent and you’ll regret this in court. Pick up is at 4pm Thursday. Don’t even think about being late again or I’ll have my lawyer all over you."
"Pick up is at 4pm Thursday."
Factual content is preserved, with hostility removed.
Filtering goes far beyond keyword matching. Our AI even understands tone, context, and intent.
Explicit threats, implied consequences, references to legal action used as pressure rather than genuine communication.
Guilt-tripping, gaslighting language, accusations designed to provoke a reaction rather than communicate information.
Name-calling, derogatory language, personal attacks, and statements intended to demean or degrade.
Repeated unwanted contact, obsessive follow-ups, and escalating pressure campaigns spread across multiple messages.
Times, dates, logistics, genuine questions, and practical requests pass through intact, so you still get the information you need.
Even fully hostile messages that contain no usable content are archived in full. The record is always complete.
FenceChat’s filter is smart enough to know the difference between blunt and cruel. It doesn’t just catch swearing: it’s tuned to spot guilt-tripping, sarcasm, passive-aggressive language and more.
FenceChat is grounded in published research on how hostility actually shows up in language: the Four Horsemen of relationship breakdown, DARVO, coercive control, and workplace incivility. Not a keyword list.
The Legal plan doesn’t stop at filtering and archiving. It tags the pattern in each message, coercive or controlling language, financial abuse, and more, organised into a record for your solicitor.
Some co-parenting apps include message filtering as one feature alongside calendars, expense tracking and more. FenceChat does one job: filtering the messages you receive.
They email or text as normal, with nothing to install. The first time, they get a one-time notice that messages are processed by AI and stored. Works for both email and SMS.
The whole message reaches FenceChat first, and emails are saved, encrypted, the moment they land. Nothing is read until it has fully arrived.
It removes the hostility and keeps the useful information, reading for context, not just keywords. More on AI message filtering.
The untouched original and the filtered version sit side by side in your Message Archive. On the Legal plan, you can export it all as a PDF.
It lands in your real inbox, forwarded from your FenceChat address. Your real email and number stay private. You can choose to have SMS messages forwarded to your phone too.
Set up your FenceChat address in under two minutes. FREE 30-day trial.
Essential plan from A$14/month. FREE 30-day trial.